How to Make a Woman Squirt (If She Wants To)

We weren’t even sure this was real at first. You hear the word “squirting” and think of porn scenes or stories that sound half made up. I used to wonder if it was just a myth — or something only some women could do. For me, it hadn’t happened… until one day it did.

It caught us both by surprise. One minute we were just playing around with the Satisfyer Pro 2 Next Generation, and the next, I was wide-eyed, laughing, and slightly horrified thinking I’d just wet myself. Spoiler: I hadn’t. But it opened the door to a whole new curiosity — what even is squirting, and how does it happen?

This blog isn’t about trying to “make” it happen like it’s some kind of badge of honour. It’s about exploring pleasure without pressure, trying new things together, and learning how the body responds when it’s fully relaxed, aroused, and stimulated. If squirting happens, amazing. If it doesn’t? Still amazing.

For us, it’s been a journey of experimenting, laughing, getting things wrong, and figuring it out together. This is what we’ve learned so far — and if you’re curious, you’re in the right place.

💦 Let’s Be Honest: What Even Is Squirting?

Let’s be honest — the whole idea of squirting always felt a bit mysterious to me. You hear about it in porn or whispered conversations, but I never really knew what to believe. Some women talk about it like it’s this wild, messy, mind-blowing thing, and others say they’ve never experienced anything like it — which honestly, was me. Until one day, it wasn’t.

It happened during one of our usual sessions, just me and Sean messing about with the Satisfyer Pro 2 Next Generation. I was already warmed up, and I’d used it a few times before, but this time something felt different — intense in a good way. And then suddenly... it happened. I didn’t know what to think. I honestly thought I’d wet myself. Sean looked at me like, “Did you just…?” and we both just burst out laughing. I was mortified and cracking up at the same time.

But once we’d stopped laughing and joking about it (okay — mostly him), we couldn’t stop thinking about what had just happened. Neither of us were expecting it, and honestly? It opened up a whole new level of curiosity. What had actually just happened? Was it normal? Had I done something weird or broken? Turns out — I’d squirted. No drama, nothing went wrong — just something totally new we’d never expected.

Squirting is real. But here’s the thing — it’s not some goal every woman has to hit. Some of us squirt, some don’t, and some only do once in a blue moon. There’s no badge or trophy. It’s just another part of pleasure. And if it doesn’t happen for you, that’s fine too.

Technically, it’s a release of fluid from the urethra during intense arousal or orgasm. People argue about what it is, but really — who cares? The important bit is how it feels. For me, it felt overwhelming, emotional, and honestly pretty amazing. But I think the best part was that it happened by accident — no pressure. Just connection, play, and a really good toy.

We’ve since discovered the upgraded version — the Satisfyer Pro 2 Generation 3 — and if you’re curious, I’d say start there. But remember, this isn’t about forcing it. It’s about seeing where things go. If it happens, amazing. If not, you’re still having a great time.

🔥 Warming Up Is Everything: Squirting Tips That Actually Matter

You don’t go from zero to squirting. It’s not a switch you flick or some magic move that gets the same result every time. One of the biggest things I’ve learned is that warming up properly makes all the difference — not just physically, but mentally too.

For me, it starts way before we’re even in bed. It’s the looks, the touches, the little things Sean says or does throughout the day. That kind of emotional connection gets my head in the right place, and when that happens, everything else follows. Honestly, I think most people rush and miss the good stuff.

And squirting? Sometimes it doesn’t even happen. What makes the difference is the teasing. The build-up. When Sean takes his time and pulls back at the edge — then starts again — it winds me up in the best way. That stop-and-start rhythm makes everything feel ten times more intense. Sometimes it’s a squirt, sometimes just an incredible orgasm, but either way, it’s worth it.

Then there are the erogenous zones. Everyone talks about the obvious ones — nipples, inner thighs, neck — but for me, it’s the sides of my bum, my bum cheeks, and even the top of my head that get me tingling. Some spots surprised both of us, and honestly, we’re still discovering new ones. We’re actually planning a full blog just on that soon because there’s way more to explore than most people realise.

And don’t forget lube. Even when I’m already wet, adding the right kind makes everything smoother and more enjoyable. It helps with deeper, slower pressure — especially if you’re using toys or fingers to explore the G-spot. We always have some nearby now. It’s just one of those little things that quietly makes everything better.

So yeah — warm-up isn’t just foreplay. It’s everything you do together that builds up the tension and trust. Don’t be afraid to slow it down. Tease a little. Back off. Build it up again. That’s how you get those moments that catch you off guard — in the best way.

🧠 Anatomy 101: Where the G-Spot Lives (and Why It Matters)

Let’s clear a few things up — because squirting isn’t just some magic trick, and it’s not just porn hype either. There’s actual anatomy behind it, even if every woman’s body responds differently.

So first: the G-spot is real. Technically, it’s part of the urethral sponge — a spongy, erectile area located on the front wall of the vagina, just behind the pubic bone. It surrounds the urethra (the tube that carries urine from the bladder) and sits roughly 1–3 inches inside. When aroused, this sponge fills with blood and can become more noticeable — kind of like a textured patch or bump.

Now, here’s where it gets interesting: stimulation of this area can trigger a powerful orgasm, and in some women, it leads to the expulsion of fluid through the urethra — aka squirting.

Some researchers believe the G-spot is actually part of a larger structure known as the clitourethrovaginal complex — basically where the clitoris, urethra, and vaginal wall all connect. And stimulating it (especially in combo with external clitoral touch) can hit multiple pleasure zones at once.

The fluid itself comes from the Skene’s glands (often called the female prostate), located near the urethra. During intense stimulation, these glands can release a watery fluid through the urethra. It’s not pee — though it comes out the same place — and yes, it’s absolutely normal. Some women squirt buckets. Others? A dribble. Many never do — and all of that is fine.

Now for the method: the "come here" motion with your fingers is the classic way to stimulate the G-spot. Gently hook your fingers upward against the front vaginal wall, adding pressure slowly. But don’t rush it. Start with one finger, especially during early play or when she's still warming up. The G-spot needs proper arousal to really respond — and more importantly, the vagina needs to be ready. If it’s not, forcing two fingers in too early can feel uncomfortable or even painful.

Only add a second finger when her body allows it — when she’s wet, relaxed, and totally into it. And even then, take it slow. This should feel like a build-up, not a stretch or struggle.

Some people also use curved G-spot dildos or internal vibrators to reach it more easily (especially those that pulse or apply firm pressure). These can help with consistent stimulation and are a great way to explore together.

But full honesty: this isn’t how it’s worked for us. Not yet anyway. The times I’ve squirted have been through clitoral stimulation, especially with the suction toy — and once with a mini wand, during a steamy club night. We’re still playing, still learning, and I’m still trying to experience it the other way — through internal G-spot stimulation.

So if you’re someone trying to figure this out too, you’re not alone. Just because it hasn’t happened that way yet doesn’t mean it won’t. Or that it has to.

Every woman’s body is wired differently. There’s no right or wrong way — just discovery.

🤲 Techniques to Try Together: How to Approach Squirting Play

If you’re curious about trying to make her squirt — or if you’re the woman on the receiving end of all this — let’s talk about how to actually do it. Not just the “come here” bit (though that’s part of it), but how to approach this as something you're doing together, not some performance or goal to tick off.

We’ve already talked about the G-spot — and if you’re working internally, that’s your main area to explore. But this only works if she’s already turned on and feeling safe. Honestly, this kind of play isn’t something you do in a hurry. It needs connection, build-up, and a lot of feedback. So if you’re doing it right, you’ll be checking in with her constantly, even if it’s just with eye contact or a hand squeeze.

Start slow. One clean, trimmed finger, gently inserted with lube (we can’t stress this enough — lube is essential here). Once she’s warmed up and relaxed, you can try the “come here” motion, curving upward toward the belly button with firm but rhythmic pressure. If she’s comfortable, try adding a second finger — but only if her body allows it.

From here, the trick is to build intensity gradually. Don’t hammer away. Think of it like waves — pressure, ease off, pressure again.

That said — and this is really important — not every body responds the same way. In our case, adding anything inside (fingers, toys, anything really) tends to stop the squirting, not encourage it. For me, it’s been all about external stimulation — especially with suction toys like the Satisfyer Pro 2. So while internal G-spot play might be the go-to in guides, it’s not a magic formula. For us, it’s actually the opposite.

You can also combine internal and external stimulation — but again, only if it works for you. The Satisfyer Pro 2 Gen 3 has been a bit of a revelation — that mix of suction and pulses just pushes things over the edge sometimes. No effort. No goal. Just let go.

Then there’s this tiny wand we tried — the Charmed Petit Wand. Honestly, it’s tiny but surprisingly intense. One night in a club (of all places), that little thing did what fingers never could. We think it had a lot to do with the environment — being out of our comfort zone in the right way, turned on, and totally in the moment.

What we’ve learned:

• 💜 Foreplay matters more than you think.
• 💜 Communication is sexy.
• 💜 Internal stimulation might work — or not.
• 💜 Clitoral toys are seriously underrated.

And from me to you? If you’re trying this with a partner — ask, listen, and stop if something doesn’t feel right. There’s no “right way” to make a woman squirt. But there’s definitely a wrong way — and it usually starts with not paying attention.

💫 What It Actually Feels Like (And Why That Matters)

If you’ve never squirted before, it can feel… weird. The first time it happened to me, I genuinely thought I was going to pee. There was this intense build-up — like pressure inside — and it wasn’t like a clitoral orgasm where everything pulses then melts. It was different. A bit overwhelming, a bit out-of-control — in a good way, but also kind of emotional. I wasn’t expecting that.

And that’s something I wish more people talked about: squirting doesn’t feel like a regular orgasm. It might come with one, or it might happen just before, or even instead of. For me, it was like this big wave I didn’t know was coming — pun not intended. You feel full, then a rush of release. But not everyone experiences it the same way. Some women feel that “need to pee” and back off. Some lean into it. Neither’s wrong.

As for what actually comes out — yes, it can feel like you’ve wet yourself. But it’s not wee. Or at least, not just wee. It’s fluid released through the urethra, and scientists still argue about the exact makeup. There’s some trace of urine in most cases, but it’s mostly something called female ejaculate, which is different in consistency and usually clear or slightly milky. The point is — it’s normal, it’s clean, and it doesn’t mean anything bad has happened.

And just to manage expectations: sometimes it’s a little dribble. Sometimes it’s full-on call-the-cleaner level puddle. Sometimes? Nothing at all, even if everything else is amazing. It all counts.

FAQ-style moment:
“Will it ruin the sheets?”
Yep. Probably. Grab a towel. Or a waterproof throw if you're planning a marathon.

If there’s one thing we’ve learned, it’s this: the best experiences happen when you’re not focused on the outcome. Whether you squirt or not, whether it’s a gush or just a good laugh, it’s all part of getting to know your body. And that’s sexy as hell.

⚠️ Let Go of the Goal: No Pressure, No Expectations

Here’s the truth: squirting isn’t the goal. Pleasure is.

It’s easy to fall into the trap of trying to “make it happen” once you know it can happen. We’ve been there. After that first time, we got a bit obsessed with trying to do it again. Same toy, same position, same vibe — nothing. And that’s when it clicked. Chasing it kind of killed the mood.

The best sex we’ve ever had didn’t come with a to-do list. When we were just having fun, being in the moment, and focusing on what felt good — that’s when the magic happened. Sometimes that included squirting. Other times it was just laughter, connection, and ridiculous orgasms.

If you go into this thinking “I’ve got to make her squirt,” it puts a weird pressure on both of you. She might feel like she’s failing if it doesn’t happen. You might feel like you’re doing something wrong. And that’s not what any of this is about.

This isn’t a performance. It’s exploration. Intimacy. Curiosity. And, if it happens — amazing. If it doesn’t — still amazing.

So let go of the finish line. Enjoy the journey. And remember: every body is different. What worked yesterday might not work today. What didn’t happen last week might surprise you next time. Just be open, be patient, and keep it playful.

🛍️ Towels, Toys, and a Sense of Humour

Let’s be real — if squirting’s on the table, you’ll probably want a towel (or three). It’s not always a tidal wave, but it can be. And trust me, the last thing you want mid-session is to stop and change the sheets. We’ve got a couple of designated “play towels” now — nothing fancy, just something we can throw down and not care about.

And then there’s the toys. Not every toy is built for squirting-style stimulation, but the right ones can really help you explore. For us, clitoral suction is where it started. That first time? It was the Satisfyer Pro 2 Next Generation — and later, the upgraded Satisfyer Pro 2 Gen 3 with added vibration made everything feel even more intense. If you’re curious, that’s a good place to start.

The Charmed Petit Wand also surprised me — it’s tiny, but bloody powerful. I think it worked for me more because of the setting we were in (a club, lots of build-up, loads of energy) than just the toy itself. But it’s a gem when you want something discreet and effective.

Everyone’s different. Some love the pressure of internal toys like G-spot dildos or curved vibrators, others (like me) find it harder to squirt with anything inside. So it’s about trying different things and seeing what your body responds to.

And lastly — keep your sense of humour handy. Whether it’s a dribble, a squirt, or a full-blown puddle, there’s no wrong way to enjoy it. You’ll laugh. You might make a mess. That’s kind of the point.

It’s About Her, Not the Trick

At the end of the day, squirting isn’t some badge of honour or a magic sex move to master. It’s not about performing. It’s not about impressing anyone. And it’s definitely not the goal every time you have sex.

For us, it’s just something that started happening — and we followed the curiosity. Sometimes it happens again, sometimes it doesn’t. But what we’ve realised is, the chase isn’t the sexy part. The connection is. The buildup, the laughter, the trust, the way your partner responds to your touch — that’s where the real intimacy lives.

If you’re reading this thinking, “I’ve never squirted,” or “We’ve tried and it’s not working,” take a deep breath. That’s completely normal. It’s not a failure, it’s not a sign something’s wrong, and it doesn’t mean the sex isn’t incredible already. Pleasure comes in so many forms — this is just one of them.

So take the pressure off. Be playful. Be patient. If it happens, amazing. If it doesn’t, you’re still connecting, still learning, still enjoying each other. And honestly? That’s what good sex is all about.

💜 Quick FAQ: Squirting Questions We Actually Get Asked

• 💜 “Will it ruin the sheets?”
  Yep. Probably. Grab a towel, or invest in a waterproof throw. You’ll thank us later.
• 💜 “Is it pee?”
  Not exactly. It comes from the urethra and may contain traces of urine, but it’s mostly female ejaculate — a separate, natural fluid that’s totally normal.
• 💜 “What if I can’t do it?”
  Then don’t stress! Plenty of women never squirt, and it doesn’t make your orgasms any less real or amazing.
• 💜 “What if I feel like I need to pee?”
  That’s common — it’s part of the build-up for a lot of people. You can try relaxing and going with it, but never force it. Comfort is key.
• 💜 “Can toys help?”
  100%. Clitoral suction toys like the Satisfyer Pro 2 Gen 3 or small but powerful wands like the Charmed Petit Wand have made a big difference for us.
• 💜 “Do I have to do anything special after?”
  Not really — just enjoy the moment. Maybe freshen up, have a cuddle, and definitely high-five if it felt amazing.