When you’re new to sex toys, it’s completely normal to feel a mix of curiosity, excitement, and maybe even a few nerves. With so many different types, materials, shapes, and features available, figuring out what to try first can feel a little overwhelming. But don’t worry — you’re not alone, and this guide is here to help.

At Lovedo, we believe that exploring your pleasure should feel empowering, safe, and even a little bit fun. Whether you’re flying solo or shopping with a partner, we’re here to make your first steps into the world of sex toys smooth, satisfying, and judgment-free.

Why Try a Sex Toy?

Before diving into the types of toys, let’s talk about why they’re worth exploring:

  • They help you learn what feels good in your own body.
  • Sex toys can improve intimacy with a partner.
  • They’re amazing for relaxation, stress relief, and yes — more intense orgasms.
  • For some people, they’re helpful for managing sexual dysfunction, enhancing arousal, or just reconnecting with their sexuality.

In short, sex toys are tools for pleasure and self-connection. And there’s no “right” way to use them — only what feels right for you.

Where Should Beginners Start?

When it comes to your first toy, we always recommend keeping it simple, body-safe, and non-intimidating. You want a toy that gives you a great experience without requiring a manual or a masterclass to use.

1. Bullet Vibrators: Small, Simple, and Powerful

Why they’re great: Bullet vibrators are discreet, easy to use, and perfect for clitoral stimulation. They often have just one or two speeds, making them great for learning what you like without overcomplicating things.

Perfect for: People with vulvas, first-time users, solo or partner play.

Lovedo tip: Look for a rechargeable bullet made from medical-grade silicone for comfort and durability.

2. Classic Vibrators

Why they’re great: A classic vibrator is usually a straight, slim wand-style toy. It can be used externally or internally and is easy to control.

Perfect for: Solo sessions, gentle internal stimulation, or full-body teasing.

Pro tip: Choose one with a soft-touch finish and multiple speeds — so you can ease into it at your own pace.

3. Silicone Dildos

Why they’re great: Non-vibrating and straightforward, silicone dildos let you explore penetration without any noise or moving parts. They’re often available in lots of shapes and sizes — so you can pick what feels right for you.

Perfect for: Exploring vaginal or anal penetration, pairing with harnesses or suction cups.

Good to know: Start small. You can always size up later.

4. Gentle Clitoral Stimulators

Why they’re great: If direct vibration feels too intense, try a suction-style toy like a Satisfyer or Womanizer. These use air pressure to provide a lighter, tapping sensation.

Perfect for: Vulva owners, people who find traditional vibrators too buzzy, or want quieter options.

5. Couples’ Toys for Shared Exploration

Why they’re great: Some beginners are exploring toys as a couple — and want something to enhance their connection. Think: vibrating cock rings, wearable toys, or remote-controlled vibes.

Perfect for: Adding extra stimulation during sex or teasing each other from across the room (or even long-distance).

Remember: Communication is key! Talk about what you’re both curious to try.

6. Anal Toys for First-Timers

Why they’re great: If you’re curious about anal play, start with small plugs designed specifically for beginners. Smooth, tapered, and often with a flared base for safety.

Perfect for: Anyone exploring backdoor fun — solo or with a partner.

Essentials: Use plenty of lube (water-based is best for silicone toys) and take things slow.

Features to Consider

Here are some beginner-friendly features that can make your first toy experience even better:

  • Body-safe materials: Silicone, ABS plastic, and glass are non-porous and hygienic.
  • Rechargeable battery: Saves you on batteries and is more eco-friendly.
  • Waterproof: Makes cleanup easy and lets you take your toy in the shower or bath.
  • Quiet operation: Especially important if you’re sharing a space or want more discretion.

What About App-Controlled Toys?

While they’re not essential for beginners, app-controlled toys can be a fun way to explore techy features like custom patterns, remote control play, or syncing with music. They’re best if you’re a little more confident and ready to experiment — or in a long-distance relationship.

Don’t Forget the Lube!

Lube makes everything better. Seriously. If you’re trying a toy for the first time, using a good quality water-based lubricant will make things smoother, more comfortable, and more pleasurable. It also reduces friction and helps prevent irritation.

Avoid using silicone-based lube with silicone toys — they can degrade the material over time. Stick to water-based for safety.

Cleaning & Storage 101

After play, clean your toy with warm water and mild soap or a dedicated sex toy cleaner. Dry it thoroughly and store it somewhere dust-free — ideally in a little pouch or box.

Need help with this? Check out our full blog guide: How to Clean and Care for Your Sex Toys

What If You’re Nervous?

Totally normal. Trying something new can feel intimidating — especially with the stigma some people still attach to sexual pleasure. But remember: sex toys are for you. You don’t need anyone’s permission to enjoy them.

Take your time, read reviews, and feel free to ask questions. We’re here to help — no shame, no pressure, just honest support.

Why Buy from Lovedo?

  • A husband & wife team who test and love what we sell
  • Based in the UK with fast & discreet delivery
  • Body-safe, high-quality products only
  • Supportive of all genders, orientations & experience levels
  • Packed with expert blogs & guides just like this one

Final Thoughts: The Best Toy Is the One That Feels Right

There’s no single “best” toy for beginners — because everyone’s body and preferences are different. But the right toy for you is the one that makes you feel curious, comfortable, and excited to explore.

Start small, keep it simple, and trust your instincts. Your journey into pleasure is personal — and we’re honoured to be part of it.

Ready to find your first toy? Explore all beginner-friendly sex toys at Lovedo and start your pleasure journey with confidence.