How to Introduce Sex Toys into a Relationship (Without It Getting Awkward)

So, you’re in a relationship and things are going well — there’s trust, connection, and some solid bedroom chemistry. But maybe you’re curious about trying something new. Maybe you’ve been eyeing a toy or two on Lovedo. Maybe your partner's hinted at spicing things up. Whatever the reason, introducing sex toys into your relationship can be an amazing way to boost intimacy, explore pleasure, and have a whole lot of fun doing it.

But let’s be real: bringing up sex toys can feel a little…awkward. Will they think I’m not satisfied? Will they be offended? Will it change the vibe between us? The good news is: when handled with care, honesty, and a touch of confidence, introducing toys can actually bring you closer together — and unlock a whole new layer of connection.

Why Introduce Sex Toys in the First Place?

Sex toys aren’t about replacing your partner — they’re about enhancing what you already have. Whether it’s for solo play, shared experiences, or a bit of curiosity-fuelled experimentation, toys can:

  • Help you explore new sensations together
  • Make sex more playful and adventurous
  • Take the pressure off performance and focus on pleasure
  • Help navigate mismatched libidos
  • Boost confidence and communication around sex

Think of them like any other bedroom tool — like lube, music, or your favourite lingerie. They're there to help you enjoy each other even more.

Step 1: Get Comfortable with the Idea Yourself

Before you bring it up with your partner, take a moment to understand why you want to introduce sex toys. Is it for variety? Enhanced orgasms? Better foreplay? Once you're clear on your own motivations, it’ll be easier to share the idea in a confident, non-threatening way.

It also helps to do a bit of browsing — explore different types of toys on Lovedo, read a few reviews, and figure out what you’d actually like to try. Having an idea of what you're looking for (a couples’ toy, a bullet vibe, a stroker, etc.) makes the conversation less vague and more approachable.

Step 2: Timing is Everything

This is not a dinner table conversation (unless that’s your vibe). Choose a time when you’re both relaxed, connected, and not in a rush — maybe after a fun night in or while you're cuddled up after a good session.

Avoid bringing it up mid-sex — that can feel like unexpected pressure. And definitely don’t frame it as a “fix” to something. This is about fun and exploration, not solving a problem.

Step 3: Keep It Positive (and Personal)

The way you introduce the idea matters. Instead of saying:

“I think we need toys.”

Try something like:

“I’ve been reading a bit about sex toys and thought it could be fun for us to try something together.”

This keeps it playful and positions it as a shared adventure — not a critique. Share what excites you about it, and why you think it could be fun for both of you. Make it about connection and pleasure.

Step 4: Start with Something Couple-Friendly

If it’s your first foray into toys as a couple, start small. Go for something non-intimidating and versatile. A few beginner-friendly suggestions:

You can even browse together and make it a fun shopping session — pop open your laptop, head to Lovedo, and start adding to the wishlist. That alone can be a big turn-on.

Step 5: Normalize Exploration

Once toys are on the table, the key is making them feel normal — not a one-time novelty. Keep communication open and check in after you try something new: Did you enjoy it? Was there anything you’d do differently? What would you like to try next?

Even if the first toy doesn’t blow your minds, it’s a step toward open, playful sex — and that’s a win. It's okay to laugh, fumble, or experiment. That’s part of what makes it so real and fun.

Step 6: Respect Each Other’s Boundaries

If your partner isn’t sure or needs time to warm up to the idea, don’t push. Listen, ask questions, and offer to try something small together. And if they say no? That’s okay too. Keep the convo open for the future — sexual curiosity is a journey, not a one-off event.

Step 7: Make It Fun (and Sexy)

Trying toys should feel exciting — not clinical. Set the mood: soft lighting, music, a glass of wine, your favourite toy and lube combo. Make it part of your foreplay, or create a whole night around exploration. Add blindfolds or massage oil if you’re feeling bold.

The goal isn’t to perform — it’s to play. Pleasure doesn’t have to be serious. If it leads to a good laugh, even better.

FAQ: Talking About Sex Toys in a Relationship

What if my partner feels insecure about using sex toys?

Reassure them it’s not about replacing anyone — it’s about enhancing the experience together. Make sure they know you’re into them, and that the toy is a shared addition, not a substitute.

Are there toys made specifically for couples?

Yes! Tons. From wearable vibes like the We-Vibe or Satisfyer Double Joy, to vibrating rings, remote-controlled toys, and more. These are designed to bring pleasure to both partners simultaneously.

How do I bring it up without making it weird?

Keep it light, curious, and about your mutual pleasure. Say something like, “I saw something fun on Lovedo and thought it might be something we could try together.” Keep it a two-way convo, not a request or demand.

Should we use toys during sex, or just for foreplay?

Both! Some toys are perfect for foreplay (wands, bullet vibes), others can be worn or used during penetration (rings, couples’ vibes). Try different things and see what feels best for both of you.

The Bottom Line

Introducing sex toys into your relationship isn’t about fixing anything — it’s about expanding your pleasure, deepening intimacy, and giving yourselves permission to explore together. With the right approach, it can bring more fun, more confidence, and more connection into the bedroom.

Start small, talk openly, and remember: it’s not about getting it right — it’s about feeling good, together.

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